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My bank account, my weight, and the car I drive don’t define me…and yours shouldn’t either

You know that comparison is the thief of joy… Do this instead

Instead of comparing your life to people you see in the highly curated, filtered and edited images on Instagram— Trying being best friends with yourself.

Turn off social media. Start a journal. Write down your unique strengths and character traits in it. Document your life story… Remember why YOU ARE SPECIAL.

Mantra: I am enough.

Instead of feeling like you will never get to the next level—comparing yourself to successful, well-respected co-workers or other figures… TRY BEING BEST FRIENDS WITH YOURSELF.

Think about your achievements – big and small and celebrate them. Think about your grand vision – where do you want to go? Recognize that life is a journey. Everyone’s journey has a beginning and starts with a single step forward.

Mantra: I am becoming….

Become your own best friend. Love yourself. Embrace your strengths AND your weaknesses, your light side and your dark side.

Treat yourself as highly as you would your best friend. Accept yourself through any situation as fiercely as you would your best friend.

Your feelings of inadequacy will fade. You will still compare yourself to others… But when you compare yourself to another human, your approach will be from a place of genuine curiosity.

Become friends with the people you used to envy. Transform envy to mutual respect and admiration.

As CHEEZY as this may sound, it is the TRUTH and you know it too.

Here are 3 additional POWER MANTRAS to save for when you need them:

I was Born to be the First <INSERT YOUR NAME>

I am my own Best Friend

You Don’t Define Me. I Define Me.

I was Born to be the First <INSERT YOUR NAME>

I am my own Best Friend

You Don’t Define Me. I Define Me.

I am reminding you this today, because sometimes you just need to hear it again – lest we forget.

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Jennifer Namvar
Post by Jennifer Namvar
Oct 1, 2025 12:08:25 PM
After 20 years of experience leading diverse teams to win large, complex business development (BD), capture and proposal efforts for the top federal contractors within the United States defense and civilian arena, I founded The Peerless Group. We are a boutique small woman and minority-owned business serving the government contracting community. We specialize in capturing large, strategic federal contracts primarily in technology, engineering, and research and development (R&D) services and integration, up to the Top Secret (TS) level. Our areas of focus include but are not limited to: enterprise IT, cyber, space, health, and FEDSIM opportunities. I thrive on solving my customers’ toughest challenges by cultivating a culture of collaboration and actively engaged leadership and empowering individual team members with the knowledge, processes, and tools to execute and excel. I built my reputation in the GovCon industry by bidding and winning large, strategic opportunities within the Defense and Federal Civilian agencies with a focus on emerging and next generation technologies and solutions. I've held capture management positions at leading Federal Government Contractors: Leidos, GDIT (legacy CSRA and CSC), SAIC (legacy Engility), where I successfully closed $2B in new and re-compete business. My diverse background includes working for start-ups, mid-sized and large businesses in growth-oriented roles. This background, coupled with my experience studying in Spain and living and working in Japan supporting government and academia, provides me with a broad worldview and appreciation for differing perspectives to meet business objectives. I hold a Federal CIO certification, an MS in Technology Management from George Mason University and BA in Journalism from the University of Maryland College Park. Outside of my corporate job, I have volunteered as the Marketing and Publicity Co-Chair Video Lead for the Association of Proposal Management Professionals (APMP) National Capital Area assisting with their overall marketing and communications strategy. I cherish my time with my family and friends. I am a wife, mother of 2 young kiddos, lover of travel, life-long learner, and fitness enthusiast.

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